Trying to become a Mom

I had not gotten an email in about a week, so I was going to post some random thoughts of my own today. Consider yourselves saved..... I got this email from a young woman who is trying to become a Mommy and wants some advice! Hope you guys can help her - most of us have been in this position at some point!

My husband and I are actually trying to get pregnant. I quit taking the pill March 1st. I was actually one of those that thought it would happen right away. We are both healthy and young. All of my friends with children talk about how it didn't take any time at all, it happened the first month, etc. Well that's not happening with me. The past two months we have been actively trying. I am always looking on Web MD and BabyCenter.com to figure out my ovulation calculator. This past month we actually tried to cover all of our "dates" and for a few days thought we might be pregnant, but no, little thing called a period had to come. I'm interested to hear stories from all the other mothers out there on their experience trying to get pregnant. Like how long did it take? Any tricks? Am I just crazy for already thinking I'm going to have trouble?

I have decided this month to not even look at the calendar, just try naturally and just wait and see what happens. Charting and waiting and taking pregnancy test after pregnancy test just stresses me out! Thanks!

I got this email in response to the trying to conceive question. I know there are a lot more of you ladies out there who have been in this position, so please give a little encouragement/information if you have time!!

This is in response to the young lady who is trying to get pregnant. I went through the same situation. Although I can't offer up any "tricks" I assure you that you are not crazy for thinking there is a problem. Most likely there isn't, however I jumped to the same conclusion. It took my husband and I exactly 6 months to conceive. I have no idea why one month over the other 5 we had been trying, but it finally worked. We now have a beautiful little girl. I am 31 and he is 33.

It is hard to do, but try not to get discouraged. Some women's bodies take time to get adjusted after being on the pill. If you were on it for a long time, it may just be taking time to adjust. I am sure it is not that way for everyone on the pill, but all women's bodies are so different. Talk to your doctor, though, and make sure he or she will work with you. Explain that you are just nervous and see what his game plan will be if you don't conceive within the next 6 months. At least then you will have a plan!

The best advice I got when going through that situation was to relax and try to have fun instead of making it into a chore! Good luck!

This is for the lady looking to become a mom. I wanted to express to her that she is not alone. I have been in her spot before. I am sure many other women have as well. From my own personal experience, I can tell her that sometimes it just takes time. I got pregnant on our 6th month of trying. I was ready to schedule a fertility apppointment, but it just took time. It stinks to hear, but sometimes it just does.

If you have regular cycles and have never had any major problems, I would encourage you to try as best you can to relax and wait it out. Your doctor will direct you after a year of trying as to what to do next. Wishing you many fertile moments in the future!