Hi ladies. First let me apologize for the lack of "glimmer" to the blogs. For some reason the color/font isn't working any longer on these posts. I can't figure out how to get it back, it isn't even an option. So bear with me until I can figure it out. A mom who happens to be a dear friend of mine emailed this to me this morning, hope you can help her!! She is currently a stay at home mom, and is pregnant with baby #2. Part time employment is an option for her as well.
I’m really struggling with wanting to return to work full time. Awbs, I don’t know what to do….I love my son and I think with a 2nd one on the way, I may not want to be full time…but seriously, when I’m at home I sometimes think I’m going nuts! I’m not one of these Moms who is meant to be a SHAM, I’m not gifted with the talent of education, so the fact that I’m stay at home is only so Max can be with me, but I think sometimes he might be better with someone who would actually teach him? I know I could take a PT position and know it would be so flexible that if need be I can still participate in activities. I just have to wonder if I wouldn’t be a better mom if I worked….but then I’m torn b/c I think there are studies that show SHAM kids turn out a little smarter or a little more adjusted or whatever. Plus, I really think with Max, it wouldn’t be a problem, but who knows what #2 will need? Okay, I’m really struggling!
Here is a great response:
Wow-what a tough decision! Unfortunatly guilt is such a common "bond" moms share. How old is your son? Could he attend a part time "preschool" program to give you both a break (especially after the birth of your new little one)? Are there any local "Mom's Groups" you could join? How about activities at your local library...even a gym you could join with some type of childcare program? Sometimes getting out of the house can give you a much needed "break", expose your little one to new things, and give you a chance to connect with other moms. I would encourage you to write out a list of pros and cons as far as staying home, working part-time outside of the home, and returning to working full time outside of the home. Pregnancy is such a tough time with all of the added emotions, hormones, stress...not to mention just feeling so TIRED! Please know that you are a wonderful mom no matter what decision you make as far as your work status. It is so awesome that you have a choice as to what is best for you as well as your family! I believe that the quality of the time you spend with your kids is just as important if not moreso than the quantity of time. I pray you will find peace in whatever path you decide on.
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Wow-what a tough decision! Unfortunatly guilt is such a common "bond" moms share. How old is your son? Could he attend a part time "preschool" program to give you both a break (especially after the birth of your new little one)? Are there any local "Mom's Groups" you could join? How about activities at your local library...even a gym you could join with some type of childcare program? Sometimes getting out of the house can give you a much needed "break", expose your little one to new things, and give you a chance to connect with other moms. I would encourage you to write out a list of pros and cons as far as staying home, working part-time outside of the home, and returning to working full time outside of the home. Pregnancy is such a tough time with all of the added emotions, hormones, stress...not to mention just feeling so TIRED! Please know that you are a wonderful mom no matter what decision you make as far as your work status. It is so awesome that you have a choice as to what is best for you as well as your family! I believe that the quality of the time you spend with your kids is just as important if not moreso than the quantity of time. I pray you will find peace in whatever path you decide on.
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